The Kintz journal
Notes on healing
Practical, unglamorous guidance for the actual work of getting through a breakup.
Anxious Attachment After a Breakup: Why It Feels So Intense
An anxious attachment pattern can make a breakup feel urgent and all-consuming. Learn how to respond to the alarm without shaming yourself for having it.
My Avoidant Ex Moved On Fast: What It May—and May Not—Mean
When an ex seems detached or moves on quickly, it is tempting to diagnose every signal. Here is a steadier way to respond without chasing certainty.
Breakup Anniversary: What to Do When the Date Hits Hard
The date of a breakup can bring unexpected emotion. A compassionate plan for getting through an anniversary without treating it as a setback.
Breakup Appetite Loss: Gentle Ways to Care for Yourself
A breakup can change appetite and energy. Simple, nonjudgmental ideas for feeding yourself when cooking and eating feel harder than usual.
Breakup Insomnia: What to Do When You Cannot Sleep
Why breakups can make nights feel so much harder, plus a gentle plan for getting through the hours without turning your bed into a place for spiraling.
The First Week After a Breakup: A Gentle Survival Plan
You do not need to reinvent your life in the first week after a breakup. Focus on these small essentials while the shock begins to settle.
How to Cope With Breakup Triggers Without Starting Over
Songs, places, dates, and social posts can bring a breakup back in an instant. Learn how to respond to triggers without treating them as proof you are not healing.
How to Deal With Loneliness After a Breakup
Loneliness after a breakup is not a sign you chose the wrong relationship. Here are small, realistic ways to make your world feel inhabited again.
How to Focus at Work After a Breakup
Breakup brain can make ordinary work feel impossible. A realistic plan for getting through the workday when concentration is low.
How to Forgive Yourself After a Breakup
Regret after a breakup can turn into relentless self-blame. Learn how to take responsibility without making one relationship your whole identity.
How to Handle Shared Friends After a Breakup
Shared friends can make a breakup feel public. Learn how to set kind, clear boundaries without making people choose sides.
How to Stop Hoping Your Ex Will Come Back
Hope can keep you emotionally parked after a breakup. This guide helps you loosen its grip without pretending you never cared.
How to Stop Ruminating After a Breakup
Breakup rumination can make the same thoughts feel impossible to escape. Learn a practical way to interrupt the loop without trying to force your feelings away.
Should You Be Friends With Your Ex? Questions to Ask First
Friendship with an ex can be possible, but timing and motives matter. Use these questions to decide whether contact supports your healing right now.
What to Do After Being Cheated On: The First Steps
After infidelity, clarity rarely arrives immediately. A grounded guide to your first steps, boundaries, and support after finding out.
Am I Ready to Date Again, or Is This Just a Rebound?
The 'wait X months before dating' rule isn't backed by much. Here's what the actual research says about rebound relationships, and a real framework for checking your own readiness.
How to Actually Stop Checking Their Social Media
"Just delete the app" doesn't work because it treats a compulsive urge like a logistics problem. Here's what actually helps you stop checking, beyond the obvious advice.
The Anger That Shows Up Weeks Late, and Why That's Normal
Furious two months after you thought you'd already moved past it? Delayed anger after a breakup is common, and there's a real reason it waits until later to show up.
How to Find Closure After a Breakup
Most people never get the conversation that would explain everything. Here's what closure actually is when it doesn't come from someone else, and how to build it yourself.
10 Ways to Get Over a Breakup When You Still Miss Them
You can miss your ex and still heal. These ten ways to get over a breakup help you handle longing, reduce the urge to check in, and move forward without rushing yourself.
10 Ways to Heal After a Breakup
Looking for ways to heal after a breakup? These ten practical steps can help you process the loss, steady your routine, and begin moving forward at your own pace.
The 10 Best Breakup Recovery Apps in 2026
A real, honest rundown of the apps actually built for getting through a breakup, what each one does well, where it falls short, and which one fits which kind of person.
A 30-60-90 Day Breakup Recovery Checklist
A practical, non-toxic-positivity checklist for the first three months after a breakup: what to actually focus on, and what to stop trying to force.
How to Journal When You Don't Know What to Write
Staring at a blank page after a breakup is its own kind of stuck. Here's a no-pressure method for starting anyway, plus prompts that don't require having anything figured out.
Breakup Anxiety: Why It Happens and How to Calm It Down
That racing, can't-sit-still feeling after a breakup has a name and a mechanism. Here's why it happens and a few things that actually help in the moment.
The No Contact Rule: Does It Actually Work?
No contact isn't about punishing your ex. It's about giving your nervous system room to reset. Here's what it actually does, and how to do it without white-knuckling it.
How Long Does It Take to Get Over a Breakup?
There's no universal timeline for heartbreak, but there are real patterns. Here's what actually predicts how long it takes, and how to tell if you're stuck versus still in it.
The 7 Stages of Grief After a Breakup, Explained
Breakup grief isn't a straight line. Here's what each of the 7 stages actually looks like, and why moving 'backward' some days doesn't mean you're not healing.
Can AI Help With Breakup Journaling?
AI can help you notice patterns in how you're healing from a breakup. Here's what it's actually useful for, and where it clearly isn't a substitute for a person.
When to Lean on Community vs. When to Sit With It
After a breakup, both talking it through and sitting with it alone are useful. The skill is knowing which one you actually need right now.
How to Rebuild a Routine After a Breakup
A breakup often takes your daily routine down with it. Here's a practical way to rebuild one without forcing yourself into a perfect schedule.
Signs You're Healing After a Breakup
Healing from a breakup and distracting yourself from it can look identical from the outside. Here's how to tell the difference.
30 Journal Prompts for the First 30 Days After a Breakup
One journal prompt for each of the first 30 days after a breakup, for the days you want to write but don't know where to start.
Kintsugi and Emotional Healing After a Breakup
Kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold. Here's what it can teach us about healing from heartbreak instead of hiding it.
How Journaling Helps After a Breakup
Journaling after a breakup gives scattered, painful thoughts somewhere to go. Here's why it helps and how to actually start.